10 Things About Me #3
I'm still making my way through 100 things. This is the third installment. Here's #1 and here's #2.
21. I just accepted a second job. I'll be supervising graduate student interns in a counseling agency part-time. I like doing clinical supervision. I do some of it in my private practice, too. It's like using my skills, but the intimate relationship is once-removed; my concern is with the counselor's growth, rather than directly with the client. It is a nice balance. There is a limit to the number of intimate relationships I can handle well at any one time.
22. About 2/3 of my clients are therapists or clergy. This is a little niche that I've evolved into, by word of mouth. I did not see it coming, would not have guessed that things would go that way. But I like it.
23. Until this week, the most difficult scenes I'd been witness to at work were husbands learning of their wives' infidelity, in my presence. One husband insisted upon details. It was excruciating for all concerned. It seemed to me very much like watching a train wreck in slow motion.
24. Now, I've witnessed a new kind of train wreck. A daughter telling her mother that she has been molested by the mother's husband for 12 years. People ask, "How does a mother not know?" This mother did not know. This mother and daughter are devoted to each other. Yes, I've dealt with this topic plenty. But I've never actually been there to feel the energy in the room when the adult child tells the parent.
25. The above gets even more difficult, for me. The mother and father are my clients; not the daughter.
26. I'm going on vacation at the end of next week. Can you say, "Hurry! End of next week!"
27. I spend more time with my daughter in the summer. I am enjoying her very much:
"Mom, when we go to D.C. this summer, am I old enough now to visit the Homocaust Museum?"
"Is Mark Twain Shania Twain's husband?" Yes, I know, I should be ashamed. Tom Sawyer is now in her hands.
Yesterday, between swimming lesson and Mad Science Camp, we had 15 minutes to pop in the house and grab a lunch . . . . OK, sandwich and fruit! I threw a hot dog in the microwave, presented it to her on a roll, with a side of banana. "Mom, I think we need more variety in the shape of our lunch foods."
28. Sometimes I go through my "referrals" and just click on the people I don't know who have visited me. Sometimes I can't read their blogs because they speak a different language, but I imagine that they're very nice blogs, and I wish I were bilingual like those folk.
29. There are exceptions, but mostly I am not at all impulsive. I consider things for a very long time before I actually do them.
30. When we go on our vacation, we'll be driving many, many miles in an 11-year-old, 200,000 mile Hoopty minivan. I'm a little apprehensive. Last night we went out to eat at Outback. No rules, just right. While we waited for a table, we talked about options -- borrow a vehicle, rent a vehicle, take my slightly newer but smaller, less comfortable car . . . Our waitress was Dawn. And you know what she said, don't you? "I will take care of you. Just let me know if there's anything you need." When she went to get our drinks, Jif said, "Hey, we can borrow Dawn's car!" We kept trying to get LG to ask her, but she wouldn't.