Happy Mothering Day (an "encore" post)
I am not "back" yet, but this topic has been on my mind, is often on my mind, so I wanted to say this again, today, this post from last year at this time:
Here's to you...
This is a tribute to mothering. Not to mothers; y'all (we all) get plenty this weekend. No, I'm thinking of the MANY people, both female and male, who "mother" someone, without having the title, "Mom." I would like to pay tribute to mothering. That means different things to different people. Here are some of the things it means to me:
~ doing what you don't feel like doing, because you care enough about someone else to put yourself out like that
~ voluntarily sacrificing for someone else's well-being, comfort or happiness
~ being someone else's biggest fan, without keeping track of how many times they don't measure up
~ using whatever you have -- money, affection, cooking skills, sense of humor, etc., to lift someone who doesn't have quite as much at the moment
~ praying for someone faithfully, even if they never know it
~ being truly happy for someone else's success; or truly sad for their misfortune
~ taking care of someone, with no regard for "what's in it for me"
~ making it your business to do all you can to help someone else succeed
And I'm not talking about "co-dependency;" there's no "co" about it. Mothering gives without expectation of getting. If you don't "get" this post, I guess that means it wasn't for you. But if you do get it, then celebrate yourself, celebrate that although no one has awarded you the title, you do mother someone. Maybe a lot of someones -- mate, siblings, parents, grandparents, neighbors, students, pets, friends . . . And I know that if you really ache to be called "Mom," this is small consolation, but just consider, if you were called "Mom," you might not have been able to mother all the other people that you have, during your life. Your contributions are no less significant than if your name were "Mom."
Do celebrate your "mothering" side this Mother's Day. I say it's your day, too.
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