Blogthings that Make Me Go, "Hmmmm"
These are some random thoughts on blogging that have been rattling around in my head. I decided to put them out of my head and on my blog, and invite your input on them, if you'd be so kind as to share. Also, please share your own random blog-related questions and observations, and "talk amongst yourselves; the topic: blogging."
1. What is going on when I visit your blog and can't leave? A few of you have places that I can't get out of by clicking the "back" icon. Whassup with that? I feel trapped. I like to move freely among the inhabitants of blogworld. When I get trapped like that, I have to shut down IE and start again. Let my people go. I start hearing "Hotel California" when I come to your site: You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave...
UPDATE: My commenting friend, "Anonymous," has already taken mercy on my techno-dunceness, and helped me with this! Problem solved. Thank you, Anon!
2. What is up when someone visits a site MANY times a day, but never comments?
3. If I visit and comment rather frequently on your blog, and you never come to mine, is that OK? I mean, it's fine with me; I don't require tit-for-tat in blogworld or real world. But then I started wondering, is your not visiting me a way of gently telling me not to visit you? (And I'm not talking about a "famous," thousands of daily hits blogger, just an ordinary everyblogger.)
4. If I have insomnia, and am browsing my "referrals," and click on you, and come to your site, and we have never "met," and I see that although I've never heard of you, I am on your "links" or "my favorite blogs" list . . . what do I do? I am flattered/tickled/confused/only-on-rare-occasions-creeped-out (see #5), and I feel like I should say something. Like "thanks." But then I think, "no, this person doesn't want to 'meet,' or they would have left a comment." I don't know, though. What's the right thing to do?
5. While on the subject of links, and since some have asked me, here's why I don't have a list: First, it was because I didn't know how to make one. I still don't, but I know some people now who would help me if I wanted to. Then it was because I started seeing people who were sad because they weren't on so-and-so's list, or because they got kicked off of so-and-so's list. And I don't need that. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, and I REALLY don't need to feel like there's one more thing that I must keep on top of, edit, etc. Plus, I have read that the polite thing to do is to link everyone who links you. Sometimes, and truly, not with any regular commenters here, but sometimes, I have been to sites that link me, and they aren't really sites that I want to send y'all to. They might have, for example, euphemistic references to ejaculation in the title, and accompanying photographs (I wouldn't make that up). I have nothing against such a blog, nor its proprietor, but I'm not going to say, "Go here! I like to read this every chance I get!" Which, I think, is what a link says. You know?
6. The down side of not having a links list, especially for one with unofficial ADD such as myself, is that you forget all the people you want to go and visit. So I most often visit those who visit me, with the addition of those who never visit me but who tickle me so that I would visit them anyway (unless y'all convince me that I should stop that because I'm not welcome, see #3). But sometimes I do forget about people whose blogs I truly enjoy. Then I rediscover them at some point and try to remember to add them to my "favorites" list. That's working well, when I can remember. I have also thought of creating a blogging notebook with all the sites I like, with columns for "date last visited," "check if comment left," etc. That sounds compulsive, doesn't it? That's probably what I'll do.
7. I also try to send y'all to people that I "discover," that I think you might not know about, from time to time. That is my way of "giving back" to blogworld.
8. I have noticed that within blogworld, there are a number of different communities. That is, groups of a few, or maybe a few dozen, bloggers that mostly visit one another, only occasionally venturing outside of their turf. And there is some overlap between some of these little communities. Do you know what I'm talking about? I LOVE the community that I somehow landed in, and I also do a fair amount, maybe more than most, of traveling outside of it. Would someone comment on this? I mean, on why we "belong" where we do, and how we include others, or how difficult it is to "join" another community. Don't tell me I'm the only one who's observed this(?).
9. I just want to say that more than a few times, I have stumbled onto the blog of someone I don't "know," usually by the "referrals" feature of Sitemeter, and have found them quoting something from one of my stories, or using a pic of mine, and EVERY TIME, so far, they have given me credit. I realize that people have been ripped off, plagiarized, etc., but I just want to say, every time I have encountered someone using my ideas or pictures, they have given me credit, even those who've never "talked" to me. I think that's remarkable. That's why I'm remarking on it. GOOD FOR YOU, honest, ethical bloggers.
10. Those of you with partners, spouses, SOs, and whatnot, who do not know that you have a blog: How the hell do you pull that off? Blogging is time consuming. How do you conceal such a big chunk of your life? I'd feel like I'm leading a double life. When Jif and I are hanging out after dinner, he might say, "Anything good happen in blogworld, today?" And then I can direct him to the funny or poignant or bizarre stuff I've encountered. That's fun. Wouldn't you want to do that? I'm just curious as to how that works, when the partner doesn't know. Anyone willing to share?
11. Thank you. I had no idea anyone but Jif and I would ever read anything I put on here, much less comment and email and become friends. THANK YOU for doing all those things. This is the most non-face-to-face fun I can imagine having. One more time, I thank you.